Conflict Resolution Quotes

“While in principle groups for survivors are a good idea, in practice it soon becomes apparent that to organize a successful group is no simple matter. Groups that start out with hope and promise can dissolve acrimoniously, causing pain and disappointment to all involved. The destructive potential of groups is equal to their therapeutic promise. The role of the group leader carries with it a risk of the irresponsible exercise of authority.
Conflicts that erupt among group members can all too easily re-create the dynamics of the traumatic event, with group members assuming the roles of perpetrator, accomplice, bystander, victim, and rescuer. Such conflicts can be hurtful to individual participants and can lead to the group’s demise. In order to be successful, a group must have a clear and focused understanding of its therapeutic task and a structure that protects all participants adequately against the dangers of traumatic reenactment. Though groups may vary widely in composition and structure, these basic conditions must be fulfilled without exception.
Commonality with other people carries with it all the meanings of the word common. It means belonging to a society, having a public role, being part of that which is universal. It means having a feeling of familiarity, of being known, of communion. It means taking part in the customary, the commonplace, the ordinary, and the everyday. It also carries with it a feeling of smallness, or insignificance, a sense that one’s own troubles are ‘as a drop of rain in the sea.’ The survivor who has achieved commonality with others can rest from her labors. Her recovery is accomplished; all that remains before her is her life.”
― Judith Lewis Herman, Trauma and Recovery: The Aftermath of Violence - From Domestic Abuse to Political Terror

“To be on the same page, we need to be in the same book.”
― Rahul Guhathakurta

“I don’t think anyone ever gets completely used to conflict. If it’s not a little uncomfortable, then it’s not real. The key is to keep doing it anyway”
― Patrick Lencioni, The Five Dysfunctions of a Team

“Conflict forces us to be fully present because it shatters our ego – stripping away all hope of escape or sugar coating. It removes everything that is nonessential to our authentic being; it removes all superficial layers. Conflict is painful because it wakes us up out of our created illusions. And if we lean into it, conflict can be the catalyst to our enlightenment.”
― Alaric Hutchinson

“Raise your thoughts, not your fists.”
― Matshona Dhliwayo

“We must acknowledge and take responsibility for the conflicts we have helped to create, and act to create real change. That, after all, is the true hallmark of democracy--a commitment to justice, honest self-appraisal, and action--even when it means challenging ourselves and the political institutions we hold most dear.”
― DaShanne Stokes

“The world is an arena where things represents things. It is a stage where the same thing is seen from different lenses as a different thing.”
― Ernest Agyemang Yeboah

“I reiterate my dedication to advocating for effective preventive strategies to end gun violence once and for all. In the face of the rising tensions and the widespread proliferation of small arms and light weapons, we call on everyone to join us to build conditions that will make world peace more likely. We all know that the road to building peace goes through ending conflicts and silencing the guns.”
― Widad Akreyi

“Never bend down possessing the feeling of despair. Stand up and seek new opportunities in order to pursue long term success.”
― Saaif Alam

“If we can limit the unproductive interactions, we will be able to better focus on productive ones.”
― Rachel G. Scott

“What if children grew up with parents who modeled a loving relationship, who openly showed each other affection and respect, expressing feelings authentically, and who lovingly, even playfully, turned conflicts toward solutions? What if we grew up feeling embraced, loved, seen and valued for the whole of who we are? Would it all turn out differently? You bet it would!”
― Tracie Sage, The Missing Manual to Love, Marriage and Intimacy: A Proactive Path to Happily Ever After

“Making noise doesn't validate your point.”
― Thabiso Monkoe, The Azanian

“Conflict becomes sinful when our responses to it are destructive, hurtful, abusive, or violent.
There are good ways to disagree & there are also unhealthy ways. Even people who are right sometimes...about the issue... can deal with it in a way that is very unloving. Being faithful to Christ involves more than taking the right stance or being on the right side of an issue. It also requires engaging those with whom we disagree in positive respectful dialogue.”
― James T. Flynn

“Out of all the other gangs that were around, you could always have come to the reasoning table of the Rebellions without being fearful and present your case, and whatever is decided at the reasoning table you know that is what it will be, whether it’s war or peace. Unlike the other gangs that were around, you didn’t even know who to talk to. Scrooge, former leader of the Rebellion Raiders street gang that once boasted of having some ten thousand members”
― Drexel Deal, The Fight of My Life is Wrapped Up in My Father

“Through all of those different wars, we came to understand each other. The Mason’s fellas just wanted to chill in their area and be left alone. The Border Boys basically wanted the same thing. Stinky and Robert just wanted to be able to sell their drugs and make their money. But us, we were on a mission to take over the whole town. Scrooge, former leader of the Rebellion Raiders street gang that once boasted of having some ten thousand members”
― Drexel Deal, The Fight of My Life is Wrapped Up in My Father

“Practice bravery every day and the self-worth will come.”
― Alaric Hutchinson

“Bravery is listening even when you don't want to hear it.”
― Alaric Hutchinson

“I will gather up a lifetime of things unsaid, write them down, and then offer them all to be lit up for security and burned. All at once.
And then I can watch the whole thing turn to ash. The whole damn thing.
Light the match, and watch it burn.
What a loaded bonfire that would be though, if this gets burned when I finish filling up the whole book.
What a cleansing experience that will be!
If flames could speak, what a story they would tell.
They say that the original bonfires were the burning up of bones. Bad bones. Bad people. Enemies. Turning bones to ash. And it was the burning up of curses and all things bad as well. God knows we have had and still have enemies, and even curses. Real ones.”
― Suzanne Valtsioti, Mallias The Greek Gangster the story of a card cheat

“Where there’s confusion, Stick with the tools that work for you and not those that don't.”
― Oscar Auliq-Ice

“As parents one of the biggest jobs we have, is teaching our children how to resolve problems effectively. We live in an era where everyone is quick to act the fool over simple issues. As we used to say when I was on the streets, ‘everybody wants to cut a movie’.”
― Drexel Deal, The Fight of My Life is Wrapped Up in My Father

“A person who takes a gun holds it to somebody’s head, and intimidates them for money or take their property from them. The person who gets into an argument and his only resort is to take a gun or some offensive weapon and eliminate the other person. I understand that many of these persons do not have reasoning skills. They do not have the basic conflict management skills, to resolve basic issues between themselves and others. So they resort to what they know best, which is violence. I’m talking about the animalistic instinct. Former Assistant Commissioner of Police with the Royal Bahamas Police Force, Mr. Hulan Hanna.”
― Drexel Deal, The Fight of My Life is Wrapped Up in My Father

“Reconciliation is a step beyond the domain of conflict resolution, which, as traditionally defined and practiced, is coming to be viewed as inadequate for creating true healing, harmony, and effective community in arenas where they has been long-standing conflict.”
― William Keepin, Divine Duality: The Power of Reconciliation Between Women and Men

“conflict is productive”
― Patrick Lencioni, The Five Dysfunctions of a Team

“Mindfulness may help you gain insight into your role in conflicts with others, it won’t single-highhandedly help you resolve them.”
― Sharon Salzberg, Real Love: The Art of Mindful Connection

“To pacify your external conflicts, you must wage peace, first and foremost, within yourself.”
― Vironika Tugaleva, The Art of Talking to Yourself

“Peace is better than war because conflict resolutions can be made without a wastage of life and resources.”
― Gift Gugu Mona

“Whilst some people have a history in creating conflict others create a history in conflict resolution“ ~ Anthony Higginson ~”
― Anthony Higginson

“When finding a solution to a problem, try to think critically about its possibilities by performing trial and error. This method can help you to overcome ambiguity when encountering a difficult problem, pertaining to academics, social conflicts, environmental issues or etc.”
― Saaif Alam

“You can always end an argument. It starts with shutting your mouth.”
― Janna Cachola

“Just because you're in pain, it doesn't mean you have to drag everyone down to your level of hurt. No one can help if everyone around youis in pain.”
― Janna Cachola