Victims No Longer Quotes

“Another question I am frequently asked is, "What do you mean by recovery?" It has taken me a while to answer that one. I had been depending on other people's definitions of recovery until I developed one that worked for me (just as you must come to one that makes sense for you.) Mine is simple. For me, it is about freedom.
Recovery is the freedom to make choices in your life that aren't determined by the abuse.
The specific choices will be different for each of you; the freedom to choose is your birthright.”
― Mike Lew, Victims No Longer: Men Recovering from Incest and Other Sexual Child Abuse

“To "see both sides" of a problem is the surest way to prevent its complete solution. Because there are always more than two sides. —Idries Shah, REFLECTIONS”
― Mike Lew, Victims No Longer: The Classic Guide for Men Recovering from Sexual Child Abuse

“...there is a particular focus of the problem faced only by men. It arises from our culture providing no room for a man as victim.”
― Mike Lew, Victims No Longer: Men Recovering from Incest and Other Sexual Child Abuse

“Continual frustration of a child's striving for belonging can lead to resentment, hopelessness, or even vengeful behavior. The child who feels "different" most often feels inferior and isolated as well.”
― Mike Lew, Victims No Longer: The Classic Guide for Men Recovering from Sexual Child Abuse

“Instead of opening ourselves to the virtually unlimited potential and flexibility of which human beings are capable, we concentrate our energies on trying to live up to an ideal.”
― Mike Lew, Victims No Longer: The Classic Guide for Men Recovering from Sexual Child Abuse